4 Roles Of A Biblical Wife

When i was still single, i used to say that when i get married, i don't want to quit my job and be a plain housewife and stay at home mom. The idea of it makes me feel like losing my own self, my identity. I don't ever want to think not having my own money and buy what i want or even help my family. I don't like the idea of being controlled...

Not until i realized how significant our ROLE is as a woman and as a wife. Now that I'm a family person, I think God has imposed my soul to thirst for truth about how i should be or what is my divine purpose. Although my mom is there to mentor me, It is not enough (although her love is perfect despite her imperfections). Having a community and a church will help you shape and nourish your soul and your being. It is important that younger woman should be mentored by older biblical woman so that at an early age they will developed the ideas and plans of God given role specially this modern days where feminism already exist and creates confusion or false beliefs on modern girls. It is best to have a deeper foundation so that you won't get easily swayed by different events and opinions. And as a mom, my goal is to develop my children to be a better and Godly human beings.

 4 Biblical Role Of A Wife

Source: Family Life

1. Be a helper to you husband - Genesis tells us that God realized it wasn't good for a man to be alone, and that He decided to make a "helper suitable for him" Genesis 2:18

God designed the husband as the head of the home (1 Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:23) The bible describes this leadership as loving-not dictatorial, condescending, or patronizing of his wife or children. A husband's leadership is compared to Jesus' love for the church. This love is one of mercy, forgiveness, compassion and selflessness.

The role we have as wives is that of encouraging and helping our husbands. If husband is the HEAD of the home, the wives are the NECK that supports the head and helps the head to fulfill its duties.

2.Respect your husband - In Ephesians 5:33, Paul says, " the wife must respect her husband." When you respect your husband you reverence him, notice him, regard him, honor him, prefer him, and esteem him. It means valuing his opinion, admiring his wisdom and character, appreciating his commitment to you and considering his needs and values.

Every time my husband helps me in household chores, i would tease him, i wink on him and smile and says," It's really awesome to have a husband and to have you here, great job hon,thanks for helping me," and i can see how he smiles back at me so sweetly. Those little acts could help him brighten his day. And during tough times like having arguments, i always think about this, Let LOVE lead the way... If you choose to love him you wouldn't want to hurt him. Loving your husband in the most unlovable time could be so hard, its like swallowing your pride. But i chose to swallow it rather than to feed the the conflicts/arguments. Id rather win the heart than win in fights. You can love your husband in difficult times by avoiding harsh words and loud voice, but instead speak your mind in the most loving and kindest way he can understand. It's not easy but its worth it.

3.Love your husband - Titus 2:4 calls for wives to "love their husbands." A good description of the kind of love your husband needs is " unconditional acceptance." In other words, accept your husband just as he is - an imperfect person. Love also means being committed to mutually fulfilling sexual relationship. I realize there is a whole lot more to love than sex, but we are looking at how to fulfill God's command to love our husbands. Therefore, we must look at love from their perspective, not just our own. 

Be our husband's best friend 

4. Submit to the leadership of your husband - Ephesians 5:22-24 " wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which he is the savior. now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husband in everything".

Just mention the word "submission," and many women immediately become angry and even hostile. This controversial concept has been highly debated and misunderstood. 

Some husbands and wives actually believe submission indicates that women are inferior to men in some way. I have known women who think that if they submit they will loose their identity and become non-persons. Others fear( some with good reason) that submission leads to being used or abused. Another misconception is that submission means blind obedience on the part of the woman. She can give no input to her husband, question nothing, and only stay obediently barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

A Special Note: Some of you may live with abused or in excessively unhealthy and destructive conditions in your marriage. At times, it may be in appropriate or even life-threatening for you to apply unquestioningly the principles of submission. for example, if you are being physically or verbally abused, you need to take steps to protect yourself and your children. If you are in that situation, seek help from someone wise who has been trained to help with your specific issue. Loving, forgiving, and submitting do not mean that you become a doormat or indefinitely tolerate significantly destructive behavior.